Successful people are resilient, allowing them to adapt to life's challenges while maintaining good mental health. Resilience is having the ability to adapt to an undesirable situation as quickly as possible. It allows you to tap into your resourcefulness, or your ability to call on different solutions that are within your arsenal of success so that you can adapt to adversity with ease. Being resilient helps you manage stress, respond to difficult times with ease, and allow you to emotionally regulate yourself so you can deal with adversity.
If you want to become the person you were meant to be, then you must follow these 5 core tools to build your resilience so you can deal with difficult situations.
1. Establish your purpose.
Having a sense of purpose helps you understand what you're willing to fight for. Your purpose, or your “why”, is your ultimate source of motivation. When you’re motivated by something that’s emotionally meaningful to you, you’ll fight for it no matter what.
The problem is that most people are too focused on fighting for a meaningless result, versus fighting for something they truly care about. If you want to build your resilience, then you must understand why you do what you do, and it must be deeper than just “wanting something”. Ask yourself “why” you really want something and continuously go deeper into it. When you discover a reason that makes you emotional, you’ll know you found your true purpose. Every time you’re going through an adverse situation, go back to your purpose for instantaneous motivation.
2. Set a target, make a true commitment, and don’t waiver from it.
In order to be resilient, you must know where you want to go, and you must be willing to continuously adapt until you accomplish what you set out to. Resilient people pick one thing that they’re looking to accomplish and stick to it, no matter what. A true decision must be made to accomplish this target, which means understanding that adaption is inevitable. When you make a true decision, it means making a commitment, taking action, adapting, and then succeeding. Society likes to focus only on the success of individuals and tends to neglect the process, or adaption, of getting there. Think - isn’t it true that anything great that you have accomplished in your life required constant adaption?
The key is that you don’t waver, or settle for less, just because you’re being forced to adapt. Remove your other options; commit to one thing. Resilient people give themselves one option, they make a commitment to accomplishing it, then they continuously adapt until they get it.
3. Establish your values and stand by them.
Resilient people stand for values that they believe in. The reason that most people bend, or break, is because they don’t have values they stand by; they lack a value system that empowers them and end up self-sabotaging in the long run. If you’re someone who finds themselves in a constant “push, pull” scenario, where you’re leaning one way with a decision, but also leaning another way, then you most likely have conflicting values.
Take the time to consciously set your values so that you don’t slip into a self-sabotaging mechanism. If you make sure that your values work for you and not against you, then being resilient will be easy.